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Sherry & Jim’s Sukkah

“Join Jim and Sherry in their Sukkah (in the backyard)” said the flyer delivered to our door by our neighbors. This welcome invitation came adorned with a graphic in green depicting a verdant tree, amid grass and sprouting leaves.

The prospect of joining in our friends' celebration of their autumnal holiday gladdened my heart. My instinct is to thank God for the fruits of the earth and the other gifts that this time of year brings us.

For Jews, the feast of Succoth comes as the third of the high holidays and is observed for a week. After Rosh Hashanah, the commemoration of the New Year, and Yom Kippur, the day of atonement, this third feast day joyfully celebrates the harvest.

It also reminds Jewish people of their ancestors wandering in the desert for 40 years after the fateful escape from Egypt, when they dwelt in temporary huts for shelter from the sun and wind.  

The Saturday when we were invited turned out to be a beautiful, clear, and seasonably cool afternoon, ideal for sitting in the back yard next to the garden.

Jim and Sherry's Sukkah was made of wood, with a roof decorated with dried corn stalks and other gourds. One end of the structure was wide open, enabling us to look out at the garden and surrounding houses.

This Sukkah had enough space for ten or so friends and neighbors who arrived during our stay. After we chose food and drink, Jim began our session with a traditional prayer from the Jewish liturgy for the day: “Blessed are you, O Lord, Ruler of the Universe, who has commanded us to dwell in the Sukkah.” We all assented to this beautiful prayer with the single word “Amen.”

After that we talked, asking about the couple's children who, when they were still at home, used to be an important part of the observance. This fall, Tamar is visiting India for a few months, and Akiva is away at college.

We also bantered about the neighborhood and local residents, all in a relaxed and joyful spirit. While we talked, new guests came and, gradually, others would leave as the afternoon moved on. (Everyone had gone by the time the Red Sox faced off against the Yankees.)

Our hosts established a spirit of pleasure in one another's company. Though they and the other guests who were Jewish were observing an important liturgical day, they made sure it remained a lighthearted occasion for everyone. We laughed a lot, as we sat in this once-a-year structure and enjoyed the company and the environment.

At the same time, we were conscious of what the day means to people who identify with a great faith. For our host, Jim, “it's a special time when we as a family get together and build our little temporary dwelling. It takes us out of our ordinary routine and puts us in touch with nature.”

He also feels contact with sacred history: “Looking out from the Sukkah in the evening, we see the same full moon that our ancestors saw thousands of years ago. Singing songs in the Sukkah gives me a feeling of great rejoicing.”

I myself, though not Jewish, feel strong appreciation of the faith tradition of the Jewish people and owe much of my own to it. Our whole civilization is indebted to those who have preserved the observance of special days through much travail and tragedy over so many centuries.

The feast of Succot that we were privileged to observe as guests has a deeper meaning than is commonly realized. In fact, David Linghoffer, writing for the online site Beliefnet, calls this feast an “edgy encounter with the apocalyptic strain in Judaism.”

He sees it as the most radical of the Jewish days of celebration because it points to “the final triumph of God over evil” at the end of time. To him, it completes the cycle that begins with Rosh Hashanah and goes on to Yom Kippur. Those two feasts may suggest that a struggle between good and evil “must go on forever, with no hope of an ultimate victory.”

Sukkot, however, offers a “preview of what it will be like to experience the culmination and conclusion of the historical process” when God will be victorious and history will come to a glorious end.”

Richard Griffin

Alzheimer’s As Shown By PBS

“My child, help your father in his old age, and do not grieve him as long as he lives; even if his mind fails, be patient with him; because you have all your faculties do not despise him. For kindness to a father will not be forgotten, and will be credited to you against your sins; in the day of your distress it will be remembered in your favor.”

These words date from around 180 B.C. and appear in a book called Sirach (also called Ecclesiasticus). Protestant tradition groups this work among the apocryphal books of the Bible, whereas the Catholic Church considers it an authentic part of the Hebrew Scriptures. In any event, Sirach belongs to the category of Wisdom literature and is grouped with other such sacred writings.

What has prompted me to focus on these words was their proclamation in the liturgy of the Eucharist in which I took part this past Sunday. They struck me with special force on this occasion, sounding altogether modern to my ears, as if they were written by someone with current gerontological consciousness. They seemed to speak to a situation facing adult children of aging parents all across America.

They also made me reflect on my own situation, standing on the brink of old age as I do, and gradually becoming better acquainted with some of the ills that flesh is heir to. Inevitably, I also thought of my only child as I wondered what role might await her when physical decline changes the conditions of my life. The ancient words of the author Sirach struck me forcibly in their exhortation to compassion on the part of adult children confronted with parental need for support.

The reference to the father’s mind failing sounds especially modern. The writer seems to speak as if he knows about the widespread dementia that has afflicted so many older Americans. To him, as to us, it strengthens the case for reaching out to help the older family member.

Unlike most contemporary books dealing with care of aged parents, this ancient sacred writing invokes divine rewards for such caring. Responding to parents this way, the author promises, will lead to forgiveness of sins. God himself will be minded to discount the wrongs done by those who reach out to their father and mother when it comes to a crisis or before that time.

Sirach also suggests that when those adult children themselves grow old and need help, God will remember the way they helped their parents. This promise, of course, includes both parents; though the passage quoted at the beginning mentions only fathers, other lines extend the same considerations to mothers too.

In our time, taking care of parents has become a normative stage in the life course of many, if not most, adults. The time comes, often in early middle age, when grown-up sons and daughters are confronted with the need to respond to their parents’ changed situation.

Often this happens when a sudden crisis hits, such as father or mother suffering a stroke or losing a partner to death. Then the family must get involved and take some responsibility for the well-being of the older person.

Most adults when they think of this situation associate it with the word stress. They know from the experience of others or some of their own how difficult it can be to take on the caregiving of older family members. Especially when they may already have responsibility for their own children, the burden can seem insupportable.

However, thinking about the situation exclusively in terms of burden and stress obscures invaluable benefits that can come from the experience. I like to quote Mary Pipher on this subject:

“Parents aging can be both a horrible and a wonderful experience. It can be the most growth-promoting time in the history of the family. Many people say, ‘I know this sounds strange, but that last year was the best year of my parents’ lives. I was my best. They were their best. Our relationships were the closest and strongest ever,’ or, ‘The pain and suffering were terrible. However, we all learned from it. I wouldn’t have waned things to be different.’”

After going through this experience herself, Pipher came to understand it as a crucial opportunity for younger adults to grow up. Caregiving of older family members, in this framework, emerges as a precious occasion for maturing and becoming better persons by reason of having assumed the burdens of their elders.

This latter way of looking at the experience clearly differs from that of Sirach but remains in harmony with it. Both authors stress the benefits of helping relationships between the generations. I take inspiration from the two of them and reflect on their words to help me appreciate even more one of the most important silent happenings in contemporary American life.

Richard Griffin

King’s Dream Speech

“Now is the time.” “I have a dream.” “Let freedom ring.” “Free at last.”

These words, used as refrains by Martin Luther King, Jr. in his famous “I Have a Deam” speech at the Lincoln Memorial, continue to resound 40 years later. While recently watching a videotape of the event, I was again moved, not only by his eloquence but by the beautiful spirituality that animated his vision.

As we prepare to celebrate King’s birthday tomorrow, it is appropriate to emphasize the spiritual dimensions of this speech.

Only a person steeped in the Bible could have spoken the way Dr. King did to the 150,000 gathered in Washington D. C. on that famous day. And only a person who had absorbed the message of Jesus could have offered his particular vision of freedom, bodily and spiritual.

“Now is the time to rise from the dark and desolate valley of segregation to the sunlit path of racial justice” Dr. King tells the huge audience of people assembled before him, eager to hear his every word.

“I have a dream that my four children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin but by the content of their character” he informs his listeners in Washington and around the country.

“Let freedom ring from every hill and every molehill of Mississippi” he proclaims. And he utters the same wish for every other part of America.

“Free at last,” he cries out in ringing final words, “thank God Almighty, we are free at last. Five years later, this quotation from a Negro spiritual would be applied to his terrible assassination.

Throughout, Dr. King saw himself as calling America to be its own best self. That was the new nation whose Declaration of Independence and Constitution promised freedom to every person. The words of those documents Dr. King described as magnificent but their promise was yet to be fulfilled.

It was one hundred years previously that Abraham Lincoln had freed the slaves. But, as the speaker saw clearly, “the Negro is still languishing in the corners of American society and finds himself an exile in his own land.”

Dr. King’s appreciation of the brotherhood of all people is another factor that gives spiritual power to his vision. He envisions the day when people of every sort can sit down at the same table as brothers and sisters. This is the banquet spoken of in the great biblical tradition in which he grew up.

He speaks like the prophets in the Hebrew Bible who nourished his soul. “We will not be satisfied until justice rolls down like waters and righteousness like a mighty stream,” he says, using the words of Isaiah to express his people’s thirst for their rights, human and civil.

Then, in describing his own dream, he alludes to John the Baptist, himself echoing Isaiah:  “I have a dream that one day every valley shall be exalted, every hill and mountain shall made low, the rough places will be made plain, and the crooked places will be made straight, and the glory of the Lord shall be revealed, and all flesh shall see it together.”

Dr. King’s commitment to nonviolence forms another precious part of his spirituality. Witnesses who attended the huge rally 40 years ago recall the fear that gripped many people in Washington that day.. “The atmosphere was very tense,” says black leader, Roger Wilkins. Some white people fled the city because of the violence they expected.

They need not have worried, however, because Dr. King insisted that the struggle he led was one based in spiritual power, not violent action. Here is the way he put it: “Again and again we must rise to the majestic heights of meeting physical force with soul force.”

Of course, that would involve suffering. But Dr. King’s faith had room for that. “Continue to work with the faith that unearned suffering is redemptive,” he told his people as he drew upon the spiritual legacy of Jesus. The speaker believed that good would eventually come from the trials that his people had to endure unjustly.

Dr. King gave profound expression to the spiritual gifts that occupied a central place in his own life. Faith, hope, and charity were to hold decisive importance in the great struggle that he led for his people and for the whole nation.

Richard Griffin

Whirling for God

Most adults will remember the childhood experience of turning around in place until becoming so dizzy it was necessary to stop. Frequently grown-ups would intervene so we would not faint or fall.

Most probably, there was nothing spiritual about that experience. However, it is just possible that, as children, we wanted obscurely to get some sense of a heightened consciousness. Without knowing what we were doing, we may have been trying to trans-port ourselves into a different world.

That’s what happens with the whirling dervishes, members of an ancient order of Sufis who dance ritually as an act of worship. For the first time in my life, I saw a group do this dance before a hushed and respectful audience. Beforehand, we were instructed not to applaud at the end because this was not a performance but rather a sacred event.

The ritual may go back to the beginning of Islam in the seventh century. However, the whirling dervishes are associated with the great Muslim poet and mystic Rumi who lived from 1207 to 1273. He is closely identified with one of the Sufi orders, the name being derived from either the Arabic word for wool or the Greek word for wisdom.

Before the ceremony, some twenty-five figures emerged on stage, all of them robed in black, wearing tall cone-shaped grain-colored felt hats, and some of them carry-ing musical instruments. After taking their places, a dozen or so came forward and shed their black robes, revealing long white skirts and blouses of the same color and material.

As the plaintive music began, the dancers started to whirl. They turned in place, over and over for what seemed to me a half-hour. To the dervishes it probably seemed timeless, thanks to their altered state of consciousness. The very name “dervish,” a Persian word meaning “threshold” suggests what the experience means.

Ideally, the whirling brings the dancers to the very edge of enlightenment. They enter into a kind of trance in which spirit is revealed as the deepest reality. They may have been repeating all the while the basic words of the Islamic faith, “There is no God but God” further defining the dance as an act of worship.  

To be frank, I found myself as a mere spectator brought close to sleep. The inten-sity of watching men repeat the same motions over and over was too much for me to bear. Were I more familiar with the Sufi tradition, presumably it would have been easier to enter into the inner experience of the dervishes.

Nonetheless, the spectacle had great style and beauty. Especially notable was the doffing of the outer garments revealing the white ones beneath. The change was symbol-ic: the dark clothes represents the world and its evils, while the white shows the blessed condition of people united to God.

I talked about the dervishes with a scholar, Nur Yalman , Professor of Social Anthropology at Harvard who was also in attendance. Thoroughly familiar with the rite and its history, Prof. Yalman described the experience as “beautiful.” To him, the dance represents “the rising up of the human spirit to a space between man and God.”

He sees special meaning in the hand gestures made by the dancers. “When they open up their right hand, they receive blessings from God; when they open their left, they pass on the blessings to people on earth.”

The total effect on people who witness the dance is precious. “The emphasis on love is valuable,” says Prof. Yalman, “and brings people together.”

Incidentally, the whirling dervishes were present in connection with an unusual exhibit in Harvard’s Sackler Museum. Called “Letters in Gold,” this exhibition displays calligraphy from the Ottoman empire. Calligraphy (beautiful writing) holds a vital place in Islamic art and worship and has been called “music for the eyes.”

Among the connections between the calligraphy and the dance is the following fact. The reed from which comes the flute-like instrument used in the dance is the same reed from which the “Kalem” or reed pen used in calligraphy.

Much of the writing reproduces chapters from the Qur’an, the holy book of the Is-lamic faith. It is revered as the word of God received by the prophet Mohammed in the seventh century.

Though I myself brought precious little previous knowledge to this display, the artistry behind the beautiful writing and the depth of spiritual feeling stirred my soul.

Richard Griffin

The Mairs

Nancy Mairs stayed at our local university all last week as “Lenten Writer in Residence.”  Together with her husband George, she offered prayerful reflections that come from a life intensely lived.

The intensity of her life finds expression in a series of books, the most recent of which she entitles “A Troubled Guest: Life and Death Stories.”  Of this work and its author, one reviewer says: “She never minces words or backs away from strong opinions, neither does she aim to shock.”

Yet, whether she aims to or not, Nancy Mairs does sometimes shock when she talks about her personal life. For example, in telling about the difficulties she has encountered she lists the following three: the multiple sclerosis that has largely confined her to a wheelchair, the murder of an adopted son, and the life-threatening melanoma suffered by her husband.

To these three, she then adds a fourth: the adulterous relationship that George had and now publicly acknowledges. Around the time when he thought he was dying, George was sexually involved with another woman, an event that Nancy has forgiven him.

And yet, despite all that the two of them through have been through over a long marriage, they radiate a peace of soul that impresses me deeply. They seem unconscious of having this effect on others because, when I asked them about the source of that peace, they seemed uncharacteristically at a loss for words.

Meditation helps, they answered. Then, paradoxically, they suggested it comes out of an activism directed toward others. “The community pulls us open to the world,” they say, providing a counterweight to caregiving.

Community, for them, is above all their religious community, a group of some 40 people who gather for the Eucharist each Saturday evening in the homes of members. The Mairs became Catholics years ago and much value the small community that shares their faith and their values.

Those who gather each week as “the Community of Christ of the Desert” place strong emphasis on the priesthood of the laity. Though Father Ricardo presides, they all say the central prayer of the Mass together. But “we don’t want to cause the bishop anxiety,” they add.

They live in Tucson, some 70 miles from the Mexican border. Of the struggles connected with the efforts of Mexicans to cross over to the United States side and those of the border police to stop them, the Mairs say: “It’s a war.”  Since peace and justice are the main focus of their religious community, they try to provide some assistance to the people who risk their lives trying to cross the desert in search of a better life.

George serves as Nancy’s caregiver, an activity that requires great patience from them both. In the face of her long, slow decline, George says: “I’m sometimes angry at God, sometimes at Nancy.”

It’s a never-ending struggle that requires continued managing of angry emotions: “Some of my prayers are angry prayers,” George admits. “But I get back love,” he says, referring perhaps to both Nancy and God.

And Nancy adds: “We have learned over time that anger happens and you won’t come to an end as a person.”  Besides which, they have found they can speak to their two cats. “You can thus communicate information to one another even when you can’t talk to the other guy.”

For Nancy especially, writing also helps. “Because I’m a writer of personal essays, I scrutinize experience the way others may not do,” she explains. George agrees on the value of this activity: “I’m sure her writing has helped us endure.”

Caregiving always threatens to become the center of things. But this couple insists: “Caregiving is not the point of our lives.”  They resist allowing it to siphon off their concern for others and for the peace and justice of the larger world.

The murder of their adopted son when he was in his 20s proved devastating to Nancy and George. They did take some consolation from hearing reported a conversation their son had had with a friend sometime before his sudden death. He told his friend that his life had begun at the point when Nancy and George adopted him.

Despite what happened to this young man, this couple continues to stand firmly opposed to capital punishment. Nancy’s reasoning is straightforward: “My son is dead. Why would I want anyone else dead?”

Richard Griffin

Heartfelt Compassion

Sometimes a single word or short phrase from a sacred text can stir rewarding refllection. Just thinking about the word or repeating the phrase silently can provide spiritual seekers with surprisingly rich food for the soul as we go about our ordinary tasks. Such language can also give us interior strength for the challenges of daily life and sometimes motivation for changing behavior.

Such a phrase struck me as I heard it read aloud in my church during one of the Christmas liturgies. Two words jumped out at me from a list of virtues that St. Paul urges upon the Christians who live in the city of Colossae in Asia Minor. Writing around the year 60, he exhorts them to transform their conduct, making it more like the Lord’s.

Hearing the words “heartfelt compassion” reminded me that one of the prime features in the spiritual traditions of both East and West is the virtue of compassion. The word’s Latin roots mean “suffering with” and suggest entering sympathetically into another person’s life when that person is struggling.

Together with enlightenment, compassion forms the bedrock of the spiritual life, as understood by many of the great religions of the world. By enlightenment, we are enabled to see things in God’s light; by compassion, we are empowered to reach out to others with loving concern.

The longer section of St. Paul’s beautiful text is worth repeating so as to identify the other virtues that accompany compassion. He tells the Colossians: “Put on, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, heartfelt compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience, bearing with one another and forgiving one another, if one has a grievance against another; as the Lord has forgiven you, so must you also do. And over all these put on love that is the bond of perfection.”

Curious about the root meaning of the word translated as “heartfelt,” I consulted the original text. The Greek word turns out to be “splagchnon,” one almost impossible to pronounce because of all its consonants.

Not without some mild shock, I discovered that the word means “bowels.” To us moderns the word sounds anatomical, referring to the intestines. In biblical times, however, it was used metaphorically to indicate the center where a person’s truest self is found. Its meaning comes close to what we intend by heart, that is, the seat of our deepest feelings.     

Various translations of the New Testament show different approaches to the phrase. Two traditional versions reproduce the equivalent word: a standard Latin version translates it literally by the phrase “viscera misericordiae” and the classic 17th century King James Bible uses the phrase “bowels of mercies.” The modern Revised Standard Version, however, backs away from the literal meaning, dropping the word bowels altogether and simply saying compassion.

The translation read in my church is the New American Bible. The scholars responsible for rendering the Greek into English found what seems a happy medium. As noted above, they called it “heartfelt compassion.” In doing so, they directed attention to the heart as the central organ that we associate with feeling. They take account of  the modern way of describing human feeling, in which we often make reference to the heart.

Admittedly, however, heartfelt lacks the earthiness of the original word and therefore some of its force. We tend to pass over the word heartfelt without realizing the power of the original Greek word. “Heartfelt” clearly rates as an English equivalent but nonetheless it makes you see why the word translator in some languages is itself translated as “traitor.”

Paul wants his people to offer others, not pale, dutiful “charity” as that word is now often understood. Rather, he wants us to reach out to others in a feeling way. Our compassion is heartfelt when our whole person is invested in it, when we offer sympathetic help to others, giving of the best in ourselves.

This kind of compassion represents a marvelous ideal. Whether you think it is actually practiced often depends perhaps on how you see the world. Those who look at the bright side would cite numerous acts of heartfelt compassion; those for whom pessimism is the norm will bemoan the absence of enough compassion among members of the human family.

“Heartfelt compassion” is a phrase worthy of reflection and, even more so, of being put into practice.

Richard Griffin

Phil: The Last Column

When we came home from a recent weekend in Manhattan, there was no one to greet us at the door. After almost 13 years of a welcoming presence, Susan and I now found the house empty. Phileas J. Fogg, our family cat, long accustomed to arrive in the front hall from wherever he had been in the house, was no longer there.  

A few days before our leaving town, Susan had arranged for Phil to be put to sleep. Gone was the legendary ferocity that had made him attack a long series of medical providers.  Reduced to only a bony shell of his former self, he was dragging himself around the house.  We felt sad to see him in such decline from his former vigor and wanted to save him from further suffering. The visiting vet handled Phil’s demise with much sympathy, easing our pain for the loss of a beloved pet.

So this is the last of my columns about Phil. Through the years I have detailed many of his adventures, and ours, starting in 1991 when he joined us. At that time, our daughter was 11 years old and finally had accumulated enough “cat points” to qualify for receiving a kitten. Dutifully, she signed a contract at that time, agreeing to discharge all the duties of ownership, a responsibility that she graciously ceded to her parents.

In previous columns I wrote about Phil’s various attempts to escape from our house, about his growing older, on his contemplative nature, of his resistance to all efforts to tame him, and other facets of his life with us. From those essays it must have become clear how he influenced us as much as we him. Unsaid, most of the time, was the growing affection that flowed in both directions as we came to appreciate one another more deeply.

In a French film called “Lumière” a daughter says: “My father wants a dog that won’t die.” There is, of course, no such dog, at least yet, nor is there any such cat. The trouble with domestic pets remains that their life span is shorter than ours, so that unless our own lives are cut short when they are with us, we are bound to experience their deaths.

Susan and I are currently in withdrawal. We are changing habits of the last 13 years, many of them provisions to guard against Phil venturing into places where he was not allowed. No longer do we have to close the doors to our living room for fear he would scratch the furniture. Now we can leave open the bathroom doors kept closed to prevent him from slurping water from the toilet. And the entrance to our cellar, formerly his lair, now remains open for easy access.

When we go away we no longer need to make provision for Phil’s feeding and other kinds of care. Neighborhood children or their parents will not be pressed into service to provide for him. Our friend and next door neighbor George will no longer have to don his heavy gardening gloves when asked to look after the house in our absence.

Mind you, I had frequently fantasized about the freedom that would come with the demise of Phil. For years I had chafed at the restrictions on my personal freedom around my own house imposed on us by our resident animal. When would it ever come, I wondered, the day when I would not have to share domestic facilities with that beast?

But now that the day of liberation has arrived, it does not feel as gratifying as I expected. Yes, the house is entirely my preserve now but I must admit missing Phil.  He had become an assuring presence, a kind of cousin who shared our lives and was always there to receive our affection. Yes, I know that political correctness calls on me to affirm Phil’s life as his own and not merely as a being that existed in relation to me. But my mentality still smacks of the old attitudes that see animals as created for our pleasure. Perhaps some evangelist of animal liberation may convert me some day and induce me to renounce this medieval thinking.

Meantime, I have no one to kick around anymore. Though this practice used to alarm purist friends it is what Phil most like about me: I was the one who would gently move him across the rug with my foot to his accompanying appreciative purring.

Nor do I now see him at my office door watching me at work typing my columns at the computer. Susan likes to compare this scene to the classical ones of St. Jerome doing his biblical scholarship as a lion gazes at him. However, my vanity stops short at welcoming any comparison to a saint, even a notoriously crusty one. But our own resident lion was every bit as crusty as St. Jerome’s.

We miss him.

Richard Griffin