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Renewing a License

Three weeks before my most recent birthday, the Registry of Motor Vehicles sent me a new driver’s license. This card enables me to operate an automobile legally for the next five years. It comes as reassuring to know myself entitled to drive without restriction except for needing to use “corrective lenses.”

For the first time since 1946, I did not need to wait in line at a registry office. Instead, I applied online, filling out a short questionnaire and paying the 40-dollar fee by credit card. In response to this electronic sleight-of-hand, the new license arrived in the mail a few days later. So much for the grief associated with the registry during most of my past life.

The birthday I just celebrated was my 75th so I am now covered until I reach age 80. You can expect to see me behind the wheel until at least 2008, tooling around town and on highways, provided my longevity continues in force.

For convenience, it is now a great system. This time around, they did not require me to leave my chair. And I do not have to think about it for the next half decade.

This situation would strike me as altogether ideal were it not for Russell Weller. He is the 86-year-old resident of Santa Monica who, at the time I was applying for my new license, plowed into a crowd at a farmer’s market, killing ten and injuring another 50 or so.

Weller held a valid license but had been involved in various minor automotive mishaps such as driving into the wall of his garage. About the fatal accident, he said, in a statement read by his minister: “There are no words to express the feelings my family and I have for those who suffered loss and pain as a result of Wednesday's devastating accident. I am so very distraught, and my heart is broken over the extent of the tragedy.”

According to the local police, Weller thinks he must have  stepped on the gas instead of the brake.  A news photo showed him using a cane when he walked out of the police station with his grandson so he apparently has a disability.

Reading about the Santa Monica tragedy has altered my consciousness. Now, when I see a newspaper story about an auto accident involving an out-of-control vehicle, the first question I wonder about is age. Was the driver a person of my years or older?

This association threatens to put me in the uncomfortable position of ageist, a person with stereotypes about old people. Just being old yourself does not protect you against this virus. To find myself classed among those who expect every older driver to be accident-prone would make me squirm.

The numbers show elders to be in fact at greater risk of accidents than most other drivers. As a group we rank above teenagers but that does not come as much consolation. Compared to other adults, we do worse although many of us have learned to compensate for driving deficiencies by modifying our habits. Thus we may no longer drive at night or on superhighways, for instance.

In reflecting on my own easy license renewal, I have to wonder if the Commonwealth of Massachusetts has fulfilled its responsibilities for ensuring public safety.  Should I have been given the right to drive from 75 to 80 without any official even looking at me?  I answered the questions truthfully but still the Commonwealth knows little or nothing about my physical and mental functioning.  Was it prudent to have kept me on the road, sight unseen?

These questions I recognize as, in a sense, not in my own self- interest. It may seem masochistic for me to quibble at a process that efficiently rewarded me with what I wanted. Only something verging perilously close to self-hatred, you might say, would make me doubt this well-oiled new system.

To my great good fortune, in some 57 years of driving I have never had a traffic accident. Not do I hear any complaints from family members or friends about the way I drive now. I, in my regular Sunday softball game, I can handle the bat well enough to manage a few base hits and then run around the bases, then I presumably have enough well-being to steer a car with some skill.

But that may change and the Commonwealth has no system in place to track my decline in driving capability. Should there not be some way, backed by public consensus, of tracking drivers of all ages for our fitness for the road?

In the meantime my approach will be to ask family members to be vigilant about my automotive skills as I point toward 80. I want them to advise me if and when they spot any decline. Then I may at least be able to modify my driving habits to enhance everyone’s  safety while still staying on the road.

Richard Griffin

Whipping Thomas

The assistant principal of the Eliot School in Boston whipped the hands of ten-year-old student, Thomas Whall, for one-half hour until they were covered with blood. This the school official did in front of the boy’s classmates, some of whom openly urged Thomas not to give in.

This incident happened in 1859 and began what now seems a curious series of events in an ongoing struggle between Protestants and Catholics over the public expression of religion. At issue here was the particular version of the Ten Commandments that students were required to recite aloud in the classroom.

By law, the schools had to use the words as written in the King James Bible. This involved a numbering of the commandments different from that used by Catholics, and also different phrasing.  Quite commonly, students would speak in unison and Catholics among them would slide over words to avoid punishment without betraying their own tradition.

Thomas Whall, however, was asked to read the words by himself and so he determined to take a stand. In doing so, he had the encouragement of his family, his pastor, and Catholics around the country. In fact, to the latter he became a hero of conscience and received gold medals and other gifts from many of his co-religionists.

Ultimately, the matter went to court and the judge ruled in favor of the schools. According to the judge, the action by the students and his abettors was a threat to the stability of the school system, “the granite foundation on which our republican form of government rests.”

I owe knowledge of this episode to John McGreevy, an historian at Notre Dame whose recent book, “Catholicism and American Freedom” begins with an account of this event. The author then goes on to detail many other clashes between mainstream ideas of freedom in the United States and contrary ideas held fast by Catholics.

Incidentally, though it never produced conflict, practice of religious recitation in the public schools of Belmont, Massachusetts during my own elementary school days stands out in my memory as having had that potential. Then we used to recite the 23rd Psalm (“The Lord Is My Shepherd”), and we also, as I recall, would say the Lord’s Prayer in the Protestant mode.

At that stage in history, however, no one made an issue of the practice, though now it would be regarded as a flagrant violation of church/state separation. As a Catholic, looking back, I regard saying those prayers in the classroom as something valuable in my education.

The movement since the 1960s whereby Protestants and Catholics have come to understand and appreciate one another’s religious traditions has rendered many past conflicts moot. The ecumenical approach to some controverted issues has helped us to value outlooks different from our own and, when conflicts do arise, to settle them peaceably.

Arguments about a particular translation of the Bible now appear as particularly unnecessary. Various versions in use among Protestants and Catholics have strengths and weaknesses but few people any longer consider them worth fighting over. In modern times, the King James version, in particular, enjoys the esteem of many Catholics for its unique beauty of language.

The same can be said about the wording of the Lord’s Prayer. The part that was once considered “Protestant,” namely the last part beginning “For thine is the kingdom,” is now recognized by many Catholics as part of their own heritage. In fact, a prayer in the Catholic Mass that derives from 1963 uses words that echo those used by Protestants.

The bedrock fact that brings together Catholics and Protestants is, of course, their sharing of the same Christian faith. It still seems bizarre for this reality to have been obscured for so much of the last few centuries. To this very day, people in Northern Ireland and elsewhere seem unaware of the basic religious identity they share with one another.

The incident at the Eliot School and its aftermath now seem almost quaint. Because it arose due to a set of assumptions we recognize as false, we can feel superior to the people involved in that drama. And yet at the time it stirred passions that were based in religious convictions and practice deeply held by members of faith communities involved.

If there is a moral to the story it may be this. When we find ourselves caught up in conflict involving religion, it may be important to look first to what we hold in common with our disputants before we go any further.

Richard Griffin

Ken Holway, Hero

On an evening in late June, my friend Kenneth Holway was riding with another police officer when they spotted black smoke coming from a Cambridge triple-decker apartment house. Without hesitation, Officer Holway and his partner stopped the car and ran to the top floor of the building from which the smoke was billowing.

There they found a  62-year-old resident, a man who was surrounded by flames. He already had serious burns on his legs that made it difficult to hold him. Nonetheless, with help from the other officer, my friend hoisted the resident on his shoulder and together they carried him down the staircase.

Last week I talked with Ken Holway about this harrowing experience. “It was one of those things: your adrenaline gets going,” he told me. Referring to the need for immediate action, he added: “If it was another second, he would have died.”

According to my friend, in a crisis situation like this you’re not sure what you are doing. What struck him most and made him act fast were two panicked words coming from the resident: “Help me.”

When I asked what went through his mind just after rescuing a fellow human from death, Ken Holway shared some of his reactions. “I collapsed down on the ground and thought ‘that could have been it.’ But you do what you have to do.”

Not surprisingly, he has relived the frightening experience in his mind many times. If he needed a reminder in succeeding days, his aching body helped bring him back to the event. “I felt sore physically,” he says.

In response to my questions about spiritual motivation, my friend, like just about everybody else, finds it difficult to talk about it. One thing is clear, however: the faith that has marked his whole life is vital for him. “It makes me feel good, going to church every Sunday,” he says of the power that comes from his religious practice.

In defying fire and smoke to rescue another person, my friend surely knew how much he was risking. The need for action left precious little time to think, but his thoughts undoubtedly turned toward his wife and children. He knew what they and he would lose if he did not emerge from the inferno.

His sworn duty to serve members of the community, however, trumped even his ties to loved ones at home. He had taken a police officer’s oath and it remained sacred enough to make him respond immediately when another’s life was threatened.

The exact words may not have echoed through his mind at the moment of pressing danger but his spirituality has almost surely been shaped by the words of Jesus: “Greater love than this no man has than to lay down his life for his friends.” In this instance, of course, the friend was simply a fellow member of the human community.

Facing danger in response to the call of duty is nothing new to this police officer. When still a teenager, he served his country in the Vietnam War. Only 20 on his return from military service, he determined to find other ways of serving the public and, years later, got the opportunity to join the Cambridge police force.

Ken Holway does not consider himself a hero, but I think him one. And I am not alone in this view of him. He has received letters from ten other residents of Cambridge, thanking him for serving our city so well. These other ten are unknown to him personally but he is touched that they have responded this way.

Knowing a hero up close is to me a spiritual gift. News of what he did has buoyed up my morale, giving me renewed hope for the human family. If this one man can respond to the call of duty like this, then perhaps the rest of us have greater possibilities than we usually dare think.

Not surprisingly, the excitement I first felt when reading about this event has receded. However, having a bond in friendship with a man who has shown such heroism continues to feed my spirit. Ken Holway thinks of himself modestly, but to me he embodies a nobility of soul that makes a difference.

Richard Griffin

How I Got To Be 75

How did I ever get to be 75 years of age? It’s a long story from which only a few highlights can be shared here. But the secret behind my success can be summed up in one word – survival.

The first important event was my being born. A fill-in-the-data-book entitled “Baby’s Days and Baby’s Ways” records this birth in Peabody, Massachusetts on August 19, 1928, “the Little One” measuring 22¾ inches.  

Getting born, I am still persuaded, is fundamental if you want to achieve longevity. You simply must survive the event to give yourself a shot at reaching the three quarters of a century mark or beyond.

Later on, in kindergarten, I had to defend my manhood against one of my classmates (a boy, you should be reassured) and gave him a bloody nose. This encounter, so satisfying to me as the solitary pugilistic triumph of my life, also qualifies as a survival event. After all, the other kid might have had enough machismo to fell me with a mortal blow to my nose.

While growing up, I also survived tons of nutritionally incorrect food. At the risk of shocking you, let me report consuming a whole lot of Spam. That does not mean spam, the stuff that comes unbidden to your computer screen, but the alleged food that comes in a can. Like my brothers and sisters, I used to eat it all the time and, if I may confide a shocking fact, actually liked it.

Almost as bad, for supper we used often to open cans of Franco-American spaghetti. Scoop it out, heat it up, and we quickly had what my taste buds approved as a delicious meal.  If only I could have had a tall rich chocolate frappe to wash it down with!

Moving to college was something that was to prove especially hazardous to my survival. That’s because my first-year survey course in English literature exposed me to J.B. Munn. Professor Munn, if not the worst teacher I ever had, is still right down there fighting for the title.

Fortunately, he bored me only to tears. Many other students around me were bored to death, something that could easily have happened to me. Observing rows of my peers, all of them fatally overcome by boredom, served me as an object lesson of the fate that could have cut short my life.

Another professor, Harry Levin, during his lectures on the novel, was always coughing. Ritually, at the end of every second sentence, this brilliant academic would fetch a handkerchief from his pocket and hack into it. Who knows what contagion I might have contracted had I ever allowed myself to sit close to the master’s throat?

Another survival threat came when I discovered sex. At about age 20, I learned some details of what sexual partners do with one another. It came to me as such a shock that I almost died of astonishment.

Fortunately, during most of my life, sickness has played only a bit part. But other medical factors have posed challenges. Nosocomial exposure, danger coming from hospitals, I have come to recognize as bad for my health. This started in boyhood when I entered a Boston hospital for a bad case of the mumps and was there infected with scarlet fever.

The same is true for iatrogenic disease, the illness that comes from doctors. I have learned that you have to be wary of them taking out your gall bladder instead of your appendix, and various other blunders. A dentist to whom I was once referred took out of my head the wrong tooth. His apologies and those of my regular dentist, a personal friend, failed to move me deeply.

In my days as a student of theology, I also faced serious dangers. As the Latin term “odium theologicum” (theological hatred) suggests, the level of venom felt by theologians against one another is right down there with that of politicians, and even academics.  

During this era, I took a special interest in liturgy but soon discovered mortal danger lurking there too. I should have been warned in advance but did not know the answer to a question celebrated in church circles : “What is the difference between a liturgist and a terrorist?”  The answer: “You can sometimes negotiate with a terrorist.”

Then as a columnist of many years’ standing, I sometimes reflect on all the grief I have received from deeply disgruntled readers. I don’t want to exaggerate here but some, at least, would have liked to see me rot in prison for my allegedly disloyal views. Escaping assault and battery from those readers, with its potential for limiting longevity, is a blessing for which I am thankful.

From all of the above dangers, you can easily judge how lucky I have been to reach 75.  Any one of these threats could have done me in, but here I am at the three quarter mark of an ever faster-moving lifetime.

Richard Griffin

Thanksgiving for Hob

Speaking of the way she and her husband handled his late-life illness, a woman named Olivia said: “That’s what made it doable and sometimes even light  –  –  we’ve chosen to do it together.”

This is only one of many statements made in a strikingly beautiful video called “Hob’s Odyssey” that traces the life of Harrison Hoblitzelle who died on Thanksgiving Day, a year ago. As we celebrate this Thanksgiving, I thank God for the gift of my friend Hob who gave so much inspiration to those who knew him.

The video portrays a man who changed radically when still a young adult. Even his physical appearance underwent a transformation as he discovered different human values. From having been debonair and dashing, he became deep and spiritual.

And yet he was not solemn, by any means. He retained a love for word play and other joking and also often showed what his sister-in-law calls “the mildly acerbic side of his nature.” But, in time, that latter changed, too.  Olivia speaks of the “hard edges which softened with his age.”

His was a life “full of surprises and turns of fortune,” as a friend observed. When he discovered the spirituality of the East and learned how to combine it with the psychology of the West, his soul rejoiced. He became a teacher, not in a conventional mode, but, as another friend said of him then, he communicates “not just with his mind but his heart.”

A decisive turning point came in 1982 when Hob and his wife first visited India. At that time he was suffering from the aftereffects of an illness that had made it impossible for him to walk. But he met a woman with healing powers who commanded him to stand up and walk, and  he did. Of this event, his wife says: “It just blew all his circuits. I saw him the victim of a miracle.”

In India he came under the influence of Father Bede Griffiths, an English Benedictine who combined being a Catholic priest and a Hindu holy man. He lived in an ashram where Hob and Olivia stayed and began a close friendship with Father Bede.

Other spiritual leaders helped shape Hob’s inner life. The Dalai Lama, Thich Nhat Han, Jean Vanier, and Father Henri Nouwen –  – all worked important influences on him. From the Vietnamese Buddhist Thich Nhat Han he was to receive ordination as a senior spiritual teacher, a part of his odyssey that meant much to him.

Henri Nouwen, the Dutch priest whose writings have influenced so many, touched Hob with his spiritual insight. One of the priest’s sayings was to apply to Hob in his illness: “A heart full of compassion can only come from a heart that is broken.”

The illness to which his wife Olivia referred was Alzheimer’s disease, which marked Hob’s last years. With her support, Hob accepted his losses with remarkable grace. Once when he was struggling to respond to a question from me, he turned to Olivia and said with a smile: “She is my memory.”

The first thing that Hob did after hearing the diagnosis of Alzheimer’s was to teach a course on meditation for his fellow sufferers. At the time, his wife Olivia was asked how he was coping. “It’s very hard,” she answered, “but, given his nature, I think we are doing very well.” For himself, Hob said: “Dying is not the hard part, it’s just imagining what it would be like if I lost Olivia.”

In the video Olivia says of Hob things one rarely hears a wife say of her spouse. Among her observations spoken on the video are the following: “He had a beautiful soul.” “It’s been a very beautiful life, the way I see it.”

And his dear friend Emerson Stamps anticipates what life in the next world will be like for Hob. “He will be a great person in that realm too when he steps beyond this little vale,” says this beloved companion.

The video “Hob’s Odyssey” ends with a song by Leonard Cohen whose refrain goes: “Dance me to the end of love.” But the song does not hit it off perfectly because, of the love centered in Hob and Olivia and radiating out to their family and friends, there is no foreseeable end.

Richard Griffin

New Archbishop

In Paris of the 17th century, members of the Capuchin religious order, in addition to their ordinary ministry, acquired a reputation for two other activities aimed at saving lives. We owe knowledge of these actions to letters written by Madame de Sevigné whom many in France still read for her perceptive observations of French life those hundreds of years ago.

The first activity in which the Capuchins engaged was putting out fires. They would limit the spread of flames that threatened people in their homes and throw water on the members. This happened before the time that pumps were used to actually put out the fires.

A second effort at life saving by these followers of St. Francis of Assisi was dispensing medicines to people suffering from disease. Thus the priests and brothers of this community acted as quasi doctors in those days of rudimentary medical practice.

Perhaps these historical footnotes have some relevance to the tasks set before Sean O’Malley, a member of the Capuchin order installed this week as the new archbishop of Boston. Looming large among his challenges is the need to put out the fires that threaten to consume the credibility of the church among both among Catholics and others in the general public. He will also have to offer healing to those victimized by sexual abuse at the hands of priests and to provide remedies to other members of the church terribly disillusioned by these actions on the part of those they trusted.

If he manages to put out the fires and heal those alienated, he will be judged a success. If he does not, he will ultimately be considered a failure, even if he accomplishes other important purposes. Such is the scope of the ongoing crisis in the church of Boston.

The new archbishop’s most important qualification for reaching these two chief goals will be his spiritual stature. As a Capuchin friar, he has long cultivated the interior life of prayer and the contemplative traditions of his religious order that traces its origins back to Saint Francis of Assisi. This inner spirit will make a crucial difference in a daily life that surely will be subject to great pressures.

Another side of his spirituality is the way he has reached out to other people, especially the poor and the marginalized. His record of service to those in need gives hope that, among the church’s priorities, he will insist on putting people first. As he himself said in the most striking statement of his first press conference: “People’s lives are more important than money.”

Archbishop O’Malley creates an image that in itself suggests the spiritual. His brown robe tied at the waist with a knotted white cord evokes Saint Francis, who loved poverty and the beauty of God’s creation. The sandals he wears also remind one of the beloved saint who walked the paths of Umbria in his native Italy.

The archbishop’s kindly face with its wreath of white hair, his smile and look of human kindness go further to enhance his image. These features awaken hope that he will prove approachable in his new and demanding position.

But image will go only so far to achieve change. As one life-long Catholic told me: “Just because he looks like Santa Claus does not mean he’s Mr. Wonderful. He’s probably like Cardinal Law but with better people skills and a more humble façade.” Indicating changes in herself, she added: “We’ve all become so jaded.”

Nor will much come from the subservience that too often passes as loyalty to the Vatican. The time demands initiatives that are imaginative in conception and daring in scope.

Among other things, he will have to challenge the clerical culture of the church of Boston. Ever since the sixth bishop, Cardinal O’Connell, who reigned from 1907 to 1944, the archdiocese has suffered from an atmosphere of privilege among some of its clergy. Too often they have abused their authority and oppressed the spiritual gifts of lay members of the church.  

In any event, one man cannot bring about the needed repair and revitalization of a large and complicated institution. It would be unrealistic and unfair to expect him to do so. But the new archbishop can set a tone and release the spiritual resources within the people for whom he is leader.

Richard Griffin

Bob Spaethling Reminisces

Bob Spaethling has never forgotten details of a horrific event that happened when he was only 16. Walther, a young friend and fellow German army recruit, was shot dead in front of him, not by enemy soldiers, but by SS troops at the order of an officer. The unfortunate victim had run from the army truck that he drove. When it was disabled, he had failed to blow up the vehicle as standing orders required.

That was in 1944 and, though things were going badly for the Wehrmacht of which he was a member, this teenager from a small town in Bavaria had felt glad about going into combat. In fact, years before, he had refused the chance to join relatives in California because he looked forward to being in the army.

On arriving at the front lines, it took him less than 30 minutes of enemy shells raining on the members of his platoon to realize how unrealistic his notions of warfare were. He had entered hell, where human life was agonizing and desperate. As a regimental runner this teenager faced hazards on every side. That he survived the traumatic experiences to reflect on them and share his recollections with me some 60 years later has to qualify as a kind of miracle.

“How do you forget a war? How do you forget the sights of men killing each other, or the sounds of dying?” These are questions Bob asks in the unpublished memoir he has written for family and friends.

Flashing forward a few years to as new setting, he tells me about joining the American army at age 25. To his own amazement, in 1953, he found himself drafted to serve in the armed forces of the nation to which he had emigrated after the war. “I’m a peace-loving man,” he says, “but I’ve been in two different armies.” When he explained to the American recruiting officer that he had already fought in a war, the man said to him: “Son, that was the wrong side.”

Fortunately, his service in the army of the United States did not require him to fight. Though he could have been sent to the Korean War, instead he was shipped to Mannheim in his native Germany, to a unit responsible for tending huge cannons aimed toward the Soviet Union and capable of firing atomic warheads.

A theme that emerges strongly in conversation with Bob is his love of America and his fellow Americans. It started at the time of his first contacts with American soldiers, right after the war. “I felt total amazement about the humanity of the American soldiers,” he says. “I could not believe it: they did not want anything.”

And about us as a national community he speaks with conviction: “The American people have a sense of common decency that will never go away.”  At the same time, he still cares about his original country, though it no longer feels like home. One of his life goals is to be “a decent American and a German at the same time.” He wants to reconcile the two cultures, a tall task that he describes as “endless.”

Bob does not hesitate to reply to questions that many people regard as still sensitive and painful. Asked what drove his people to accept Nazi domination, he replies: “Most Germans were not evil but they were cowards.” When I asked about Dietrich Bonhoeffer, the Protestant pastor and prisoner of conscience who was hanged for rising up against Hitler, Bob answered: “He is a person there should have been more of.”

Was there something in the Germans that made them especially vulnerable to dictatorship? “No one in those days,” Bob says, “could imagine the depths of depravity that Hitler represented. They totally underestimated the power that was coming through the Nazis.”

His fellow Germans had a distorted view of obedience. In Bob’s view, they had internalized a teaching of Martin Luther, centuries before. “Your body belongs to the State,” is the way Professor Spaethling puts it.

He can claim that title as an academic retired after a long career on the faculty of two universities. From the vantage point of age 76, Bob regards as one of the best decisions he ever made an action that all of his friends and colleagues disapproved of: he gave up tenure in the German department at Harvard to join the faculty at UMass as that branch of the state university was starting.

In retirement he continues his scholarship and calls it the best time for him. “I’ve had my best writing energy as an older person.” In 2000, after working seven years on his major opus, he published “Mozart’s Letters, Mozart’s Life.”

As I gaze on a photo of Bob Spaethling in his German army uniform at age 16, I feel yet again a sense of awe at the astonishing changes of fortune in his long life.

Richard Griffin